Don’t underestimate the additional pressure on a relationship when moving house.
It may only be short term but inevitably if you’re moving house and in a relationship, one half ends up doing more than the other. This maybe a sensible distribution of project management responsibilities. But it carries a risk for one feeling unfairly blamed or criticised or unsupported when things don’t go the right way.
One of the reasons that moving house is so stressful is that there are so many moving parts you cannot control. Lack of communication from solicitors. Unhelpful estate agents. The mortgage application process. People further down the chain pulling out for whatever reason.
The frustration of not being in control. The vexation of not getting an answer. The disappointment at losing a property due to no fault of your own. These are genuine issues that heap additional pressure on a relationship when moving house. The good news is that it is possible to manage together.
Communication between the couple is key
- Keep talking
- Keep those accusatory tones out of your voices
- Share disappointments
- Celebrate small wins
- Work out next steps together
Good project management procedures
Keep a notebook of everything to do with the move.
Every time you speak or send anything to your solicitor or to your mortgage broker or to your estate agent, make a note of the date, the time, the question or the answer, the outcome and most importantly the next step.
The next step might be when to call to follow up. You need to follow up. Don’t expect them to get back to you. They might. But don’t expect it. So, take responsibility when you can. It will help you feel like you’re in control.
Inevitably there will be additional pressure on a relationship when moving house, so keep the lines of communication open and accept that you can’t always be in control.
If you don’t have the time, to project manage a house move yourself and you would like a chat about how the Homemover Specialist could help you move house (or chase your solicitor and sort the broadband), contact us on 01483 255895 or by email. For more top tips and latest news make sure you follow our Facebook, Twitter and Instagram page
